Self-Test: Is There Enough Love and Respect in Your Relationship?
Val Baldwin, CPC
Live Your Ultimate Life
www.valbaldwin.com
John Gottman, Ph.D. Why Marriages Succeed or Fail
Answer yes or no to each of the following statements, depending on whether you mostly agree or disagree.
- My partner seeks out my opinions. Yes No
- My partner cares about my feelings. Yes No
- I don't feel ignored very often. Yes No
- We touch each other a lot. Yes No
- We listen to each other. Yes No
- We respect each other's ideas. Yes No
- We are affectionate towards one another. Yes No
- I feel that my partner takes good care of me. Yes No
- What I say counts. Yes No
- I am important in our decisions. Yes No
- There's lots of love in our relationship. Yes No
- We are genuinely interested in one another. Yes No
- I just love spending time with my partner. Yes No
- We are very good friends. Yes No
- Even during rough times, we can be empathetic. Yes No
- My partner is considerate of my viewpoint. Yes No
- My partner finds me physically attractive. Yes No
- My partner expresses warmth towards me. Yes No
- I feel included in my partner's life. Yes No
- My partner admires me. Yes No
Scoring: If you checked "yes" to fewer than 7 items, then it is likely you are not feeling adequately loved and respected in your relationship. You need to be far more active and creative in adding affection to your relationship.
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