10 Tips To Find The Love Of Your Life

Val Baldwin, CPC
Live Your Ultimate Life

If you are waiting around for prince or princess charming to magically appear at your door, you will be waiting a very long time. It takes conscious effort and personal work to prepare yourself for the relationship of your dreams. Follow these 10 tips, and you'll be on your way to find that special someone.

  1. Know who you are and what you want.
    Like an iceberg, we are typically aware only of the tip, while our success and happiness depends upon what lies below the surface.

  2. Learn how to get what you want.
    Assess the information, tools, and skills you will need and acquire them. Develop creative strategies and actions. "When you fail to plan, you plan to fail."

  3. Be the "Chooser."
    Take initiative and responsibility for your outcomes. Don't react to what, or who, chooses you. Seek to create what you want in your life.

  4. Balance your heart with your head.
    Make your relationship choices consciously. It's still exciting!

  5. Be ready and available for commitment.
    Live your life and bring your dating strategy into alignment with how ready you really are for a committed relationship.

  6. Use the "Law Of Attraction."
    Be the partner that you are seeking. Attract the partner that you want by developing yourself and living the life that you want. "If you build it, they will come".

  7. Gain relationship knowledge and skills.
    Prepare for the love of your life by learning about relationships, improving your relationship skills, and deepening your relationships with your family, friends and colleagues. Date for fun and practice. Take more emotional risks. Read about relationships. Get relationship coaching. Take relationships classes and workshops.

  8. Create a support community.
    Isolated singles become lonely in their relationships when they focus on a partner to meet all their social and emotional needs.

  9. Practice assertiveness.
    To get what you really want, you need to say "No" to what you don't want.

  10. Be a "Successful Single."
    Don't put your life on hold waiting for a relationship to happen. The best way to attract your ideal partner, is to be living your life fully in every way as a successful single.

Original material copyrighted by Relationship Coaching Institute,
adapted by Val Baldwin

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