Top 10 Marriage Mistakes

A recent marriage study from, Inc. showed there is a pattern to the marital problems and issues that people share. Here's the list of the top ten things that you need to try and avoid in your own marriage. Review the list with your sweetie and both of you commit to make the adjustments necessary to take your love to a happier, higher level.

  1. Lack of Respect
    Don't badmouth your spouse to your friends or associates. Spouses need to be thanked. They need to know they are appreciated.

  2. Not Listening to Your Spouse
    This includes allowing your mind to wander, paying more attention to the computer or television set, ignoring body language, and interrupting.

  3. Lack of Sexual Intimacy
    This is a death toll for a marriage. Seek medical counsel and therapeutic counseling if necessary. Don't leave your spouse wondering why you aren't interested in sex.

  4. Always Having to Be Right
    This includes lecturing your mate, or having to have the last word. Very few people can love a know-it-all forever. Admit when you make a mistake or that you don't have all the answers. Don't answer every simple question with a long-winded dissertation on the topic.

  5. Not Walking the Talk
    Actions do speak louder than words. When you say you'll do something, do it. When you say you'll stop doing that thing that annoys your spouse, follow through.

  6. Hurtful Teasing
    If your spouse says the teasing is hurtful, considers it a put down, or thinks that it is inappropriate, then stop it. Claiming that your spouse doesn't have a sense of humor or is too sensitive is being inconsiderate and unkind.

  7. Being Annoying
    This includes continuing to have gross personal hygiene habits, or always being late, or nitpicking everything your spouse does, etc. It is when you know you are annoying and you continue to annoy.

  8. Being Selfish or Greedy
    This is when you spend money on yourself, but make a big deal if your spouse spends a dime. This is not wanting to open your home to friends and family because you prefer to be alone and don't want the hassle of entertaining. This is hogging the remote, only going to cheap restaurants when you could afford better, or not watching movies your spouse wants to see.

  9. Having Temper Tantrums
    Every couple needs to be able to handle conflict in a constructive way. Having an angry outburst so that you can win an argument will make you the loser in the end.

  10. Dishonesty
    Having lies and secrets in your relationship is poisonous and will create nothing but distance and lack of trust between the two of you. Trust is the #1 quality that is hardest to regain once it's lost. Commit to be open and honest with your spouse at all times. It's the right way to be and crucial for a healthy marriage.

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